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    May 25, 2012 - 1:28am

    I have got the impression that DT have far more male fans than female. Come on girls where are you all.

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fb_norman_ottley's picture
on May 25, 2012 - 1:28am

I have got the impression that DT have far more male fans than female. Come on girls where are you all.

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RuskyTheaterBear's picture

@Rkeister: You're lucky, i have been with my wife for 8 years now and i still cannot get her to like DT, she calls it noise and Devil music. Hmmmm, at least I can listen to Whitesnake with her and a couple of A7X songs.

InfectiouslyPerverted's picture

[quote=fb_norman_ottley]@Tapring: I think your right Tapring, i used to play drums some years ago, and i am still a wannabe musician. i think many fans of Dream Theater are either Musicians or want to be Musicians. But i don't think that explains the large inbalance of male and female fans. Could it be.......................and dare i say it without sounding "sexist" that female fans go for the more attractive looking pop bands than those that you you have to sit down and listen to, i mean that there many attactive feamale pop singers, but I wouldn't buy their records. Is it different for most women?[/quote]

Maybe I've just been listening to DT for too long, but from a female's point of view, I think all the guys in DT are attractive in their own way, and I do mean all five of them(well, six because I'm also including MP here, too). I mean they aren't totally gorgeous, but I doubt they ever intended to make themselves out to be that way, it's all about the music. Although I have always considered JP very handsome and I've had a crush of JLB for 18 years!! Alot of it is their personality, too, that makes them attractive, and yes, I am also talking about JM!! :p Seriously, you start up the right topic to JM, he'll actually talk to you!!

InfectiouslyPerverted's picture

[quote=yogi]Go to a Rush concert. Almost everyone attending are males. Rush themselves, have called their music' music for geeks'. Dream Theatre and Rush have somewhat similiar styles and those styles are complex and their music tends to take more than a single listen to truly enjoy. Maybe guys like the more complex and will give albums or songs more than 1 spin before they make a judgement.

I'm 49 years old and grew up loving Styx, Journey, Triumph, The Cars, Rush and that genre. I discovered Dream Theatre about 12 years ago and they are now probably my favorite band. My daughter who is 11 and my 9 year old son also love their music. My wife still hasnt come around 100% but she will listen to them.

I took my daughter to their first Grand Prairie, Tx show last October, and we are all going thsi July 9. Cant wait!! [/quote]

There is a funny video on YouTube of a scene from "I Love You Man", I don't remember it in the movie, but Paul Rudd's and Jason Segal's character get backstage at a Rush concert and they are in Rush's dressing room. Then the guys from Rush are heading to their dressing room after the show and they're talking and Alex Lifeson says "I counted 7 females in the audience, that's a record for us!!!" :D

But back to females at a DT show, one cool thing about being one of the few females at a DT show is when there's an intermission, there is hardly a line for the ladies room, but the line for the men's room is out the door and down the hall!!! I never see that at any other show, it's usually always the reverse!!! :p

Psygnosis99's picture

I got my girlfriend into them! She loves them! I actually proposed to her right before the Austin meet and greet last October. Have tickets for back to back shows next month.

yogi's picture

Go to a Rush concert. Almost everyone attending are males. Rush themselves, have called their music' music for geeks'. Dream Theatre and Rush have somewhat similiar styles and those styles are complex and their music tends to take more than a single listen to truly enjoy. Maybe guys like the more complex and will give albums or songs more than 1 spin before they make a judgement.

I'm 49 years old and grew up loving Styx, Journey, Triumph, The Cars, Rush and that genre. I discovered Dream Theatre about 12 years ago and they are now probably my favorite band. My daughter who is 11 and my 9 year old son also love their music. My wife still hasnt come around 100% but she will listen to them.

I took my daughter to their first Grand Prairie, Tx show last October, and we are all going thsi July 9. Cant wait!!

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[quote=Rkeister] I don't think most chicks would put that much "work" into it. Most musicians don't need to put that "work" into listening to them, and can appreciate it from the start. That's the seperation. There are exceptions to everything though. I just feel that's where the womans connection drops off. We may be able to come up with a formula of songs in order for them to listen to starting with easier to listen songs that are less progressive (build me up, breeak me down.) and work towards the the insane songs like the dance of eternity to suck them in. [/quote]

Juuust to clarify......what you are describing is not a male/female disparity - it's a musician/non-musician disparity. I'm just mentioning that because you were making it sound like "females" don't instantaneously comprehend the music of Dream Theater, whereas "musicians" do. Reverse the roles where the comparison is between a female musician and a male non-musician and you would see the exact same phenomenon take place. As I stated earlier, I never found Dream Theater's music a challenge to understand or to like but cannot tell you how many men I have met who absolutely hated them for being too busy and complicated.

Rkeister's picture

TDOE being graduation

Rkeister's picture

Well, back to the rewiring mangini mentioned...for someone who just listens and doesn't understand the theory behind it, its just uncomfortable since the timing just doesn't seem to flow to some. (especially people who listen to 4/4 bands all day.) Even not understanding much of music theory, a person can work to like their music. That's where the statement came about giving an album 5-10 listens. I don't think most chicks would put that much "work" into it. Most musicians don't need to put that "work" into listening to them, and can appreciate it from the start. That's the seperation. There are exceptions to everything though. I just feel that's where the womans connection drops off. We may be able to come up with a formula of songs in order for them to listen to starting with easier to listen songs that are less progressive (build me up, breeak me down.) and work towards the the insane songs like the dance of eternity to suck them in.

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[quote=fb_norman_ottley]@Tapring: I think your right Tapring, i used to play drums some years ago, and i am still a wannabe musician. i think many fans of Dream Theater are either Musicians or want to be Musicians. But i don't think that explains the large inbalance of male and female fans. Could it be.......................and dare i say it without sounding "sexist" that female fans go for the more attractive looking pop bands than those that you you have to sit down and listen to, i mean that there many attactive feamale pop singers, but I wouldn't buy their records. Is it different for most women?[/quote]

True, it's only a partial explanation.

There may be some truth to that; I mean talent scouts put together Backstreet Boys type groups for a reason.

fb_norman_ottley's picture

@Tapring: I think your right Tapring, i used to play drums some years ago, and i am still a wannabe musician. i think many fans of Dream Theater are either Musicians or want to be Musicians. But i don't think that explains the large inbalance of male and female fans. Could it be.......................and dare i say it without sounding "sexist" that female fans go for the more attractive looking pop bands than those that you you have to sit down and listen to, i mean that there many attactive feamale pop singers, but I wouldn't buy their records. Is it different for most women?

Tapring's picture

[quote=Rkeister]I agree with mangini, they don't out the time into listening to an album multiple times enough to rewire their brains for ten minute songs with so many time changes. my girlfriend used to tell me I had to worst taste in music and would try to make me turn them off in the car. behold four years of hearing them now being with me that long, she loves them. I took her to the concert last October and she couldn't wait for them to come back, so behold we will be doing m&g for second time in one year in July.[/quote]

In all fairness, I have met countless boys/men who were turned off by Dream Theater for not being catchy, or for writing long songs, or for being (this one makes me laugh) "too hard to listen to." :D That reaction to Dream Theater is certainly not exclusive to females.

Also, DT tends to attract fans who are musicians. That's what initiated my intrigue. Could this partially explain the gender disparity?

Adam Mitchell's picture

To be honest, i don't have any female friends who like Dream Theater, i'd love to meet one :)

Rkeister's picture

I agree with mangini, they don't out the time into listening to an album multiple times enough to rewire their brains for ten minute songs with so many time changes. my girlfriend used to tell me I had to worst taste in music and would try to make me turn them off in the car. behold four years of hearing them now being with me that long, she loves them. I took her to the concert last October and she couldn't wait for them to come back, so behold we will be doing m&g for second time in one year in July.

fb_norman_ottley's picture

@Tapring: That's good to hear that a good taste for music exists in female hearts somewhere, instead of the usual " popular" Crap!

Tapring's picture

[quote=InfectiouslyPerverted]And I have been a fan for 18 years. The sister, not so much. She just cannot get into the 10 minute songs, she prefers the 3-4 minute songs you hear on the radio. B-O-R-I-N-G!!!!!!!![/quote]

That's too bad - both of my sisters love them too! I've always been the biggest DT freak though. :)

InfectiouslyPerverted's picture

[quote=Tapring]They've been my favorite band for 17 years.[/quote]

And I have been a fan for 18 years. The sister, not so much. She just cannot get into the 10 minute songs, she prefers the 3-4 minute songs you hear on the radio. B-O-R-I-N-G!!!!!!!!

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IMO. I see DT female fan sightings similar to Big Foot sightings; rare and filled with skepticism. No offense Tapring or other ladies, just wanting to add some caution to this thread before a large man in a gorilla suit walks into a DT fans life. :D

Ytsejam58's picture

I know a girl in school who "likes" Dream Theater. I however am the only dream theater fan left in boiling springs. where are you all?

Tapring's picture

They've been my favorite band for 17 years.

ohgar's picture

However, I have known plenty of women who enjoyed DT, but judging from your average concert you'd think there were none.

ohgar's picture

Women are intuitive by nature, and comprehend that long solos and unisons are mere attempts to compensate for a poverty of phallic mass. I'm joking; I have no idea why women don't like Dream Theater.

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